Start Finding You

Pain and trauma is a fact of life. We have all experienced pain and trauma at some point in our life. Somehow, the memories of these experiences seem to sneak up on us and we’re immediately transported back in time. We feel the hurt and disappointment, the resentment and absolute raw pain, come bubbling out from deep within us and it’s as if we’re doing it all over again.

No wonder we feel like we’re constantly treading the hamster wheel. No wonder we feel like we’re constantly in a state of flux. No wonder we feel like we’re not moving forward in our lives. No wonder it just feels like we’re doing the same thing over and over and never getting any resolution. A client once told me that her and her husband had been having the same conversation, at different intervals in their marriage, for ten years! When said out loud, that sounds absolutely bonkers!

Einstein told us all that to do the same thing over and over again and expect a different outcome is ‘the’ sign of madness. Yet, so many of us believe that we’re more intelligent than Einstein, and if we just believe hard enough and essentially avoid what the actual main underlying issue is, eventually through doing the same thing over and over again, we’ll be the lucky ones, we’ll be the ones who achieve an eventual different outcome.

Problem is, we all know on a soul level, that we have to work through the pain and the trauma. We have to take all our experiences head on and deal with them at the time. But our minds are so busy blocking out the awful experiences that we do not allow ourselves time to move through the trauma, to embrace it as a friend here to assist you in your personal growth. Instead, we lock it away deep down in our psyche and then… No wonder we suffer with constant back pain. No wonder we develop arthritis. No wonder we find ourselves with heart problems. No wonder we find ourselves with cancerous cells invading our bodies. No wonder we find ourselves not being able to digest certain foods. No wonder we just lose our zest for life and eventually in being so closed off, our minds no longer allow us to feel.

But the cycle doesn’t end there you see. Your body needs to feel all these experiences. Your soul needs to feel all these experiences too. And that’s when you wake up one day and wonder why you feel so heavy. Why is it that these memories are crying out to be remembered, to be honoured, to be set free?!

This life that we have chosen is meant to be filled with experiences. Fabulously joyous experiences – those that make you feel like you’re walking on air. Less intensely happy experiences – those that keep you feeling good about yourself. Much less intensely happy experiences – those that take you down a path of questioning yourself, of questioning why you’re here, of questioning your purpose, of questioning your self-worth, of questioning your ability to ever feel joyously happy again.

Facing your problems as and when they arise is the best way to deal with all the experiences as they come along or as some of us feel, as they’re thrown at us by a universe with a sick and warped sense of humour! And it starts with recognizing your self-worth, with truly honouring yourself. It’s about tapping into your higher self – your higher-self being you, you at your very core, your absolute soul essence – that part of you that knows what’s best for you and is brave and courageous and loves you unconditionally. It’s also about knowing that for the most part, you just can’t do this on your own. With time, and through changing the way you see yourself, you will be. But in the beginning, you’re more than likely not going to know how.

For this reason, myself (Glynis) and Snowflakes Healing (Mariet) are putting together a workshop entitled Finding You. Please keep your eyes open for when it will be happening and book your seat. You won’t be sorry and in fact, you owe it to yourself to make this the start of learning to know who you are and let the healing begin.