Live the Life you Want

When you were a small child, did you have aspirations of what you wanted to do with your life? I can remember playing games like doctors and nurses, cowboys and crooks (yes I am that old lol), war games where strategy was involved in how we were going to infiltrate and catch our enemies! All childish games, yes, but looking back now, I wonder if somewhere deep down, there were some of us who wanted to grow up to be doctors or nurses, or become someone who figured out strategic plans on a high level?

I suppose my point is really – are you living the life you want or wanted? Some people know from very young what they want to be when they’re older and out in the big world working. But some don’t. I’m thinking of Baz Lurman’s Everybody’s Free where he says :

“Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your lifeThe most interesting people I knowDidn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their livesSome of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t”

For me, it’s not so much about actually doing exactly what you want in order to make a living, but so much more around living the kind of life that you want. So, are you happy? Do you have enough – enough of everything that you need? Do you feel loved? Do you have an all-round sense of peace and contentment?

If you aren’t living the life you want, if you aren’t getting out of your life what you want, then it’s time to take those big decisions and make sure that you are. I find it so interesting now difficult we find it to make changes in our life. I see so many people being abused by their partners year in and year out and when I ask them why don’t they change that, they come up with all sorts of excuses except for the absolute truth, which is that they fear what the future holds. And this doesn’t only apply to people in abusive relationships. I work with so many people who tell me that they want to live their life in service to people, they want to do xyz for others, but they never actually go ahead and do it. And why? Because there is fear that what they decide to do, which will make them happy, won’t bring them the financial security that they need, or won’t provide for them in the way that they expect it, or they might find themselves unfulfilled or unhappy or disappointed, or unable to deliver what they promise.

And so essentially we become our own worst enemies. We hold ourselves back from achieving the life we want, because we fear the unknown. As human beings, sapiens on this earth, we are hard-wired to operate in a fear-based state of mind. Flight or fight is in our DNA, there’s no getting away from that. However, that doesn’t mean that we keep ourselves in that state. We know that actually the flight or fight mentality is one that was developed thousands of years ago, when sabre tooth tigers and snakes roamed freely, where if we weren’t careful we would become prey to a big scary wild animal.

People we have risen above that state of mind. And we should be exciting for our unknown futures. It’s an opportunity for us to explore things about ourselves that we didn’t know but want to. It’s an opportunity for us to explore the world, to travel around in relative safety. It’s our opportunity to move from one tribe to another without rejection but instead, with open arms and unconditional love.

Think about why you aren’t living the life you want. Be completely honest with yourself and recognise how much you block yourself from having a steady monetary income, from having a loving relationship, from having a warm and comfortable home, in an area that you love, from living in the country that you want to be living in. From forming relationships with others. From doing work that you love. Really give it some deep and honest thought and truly recognise that you are the captain of your own ship, you have the ability through the creative energy of the Universal Consciousness, to create the life that you want and that the only thing stopping you is the limitations that you place on yourself.