Messages from our Loved Ones in Spirit

I did a calculation the other day and was shocked to see that over a period of 20 years, I have done more than 5000 readings! It still feels as much of an honour today as it did when I first started on this journey, to be allowed into the most intimate and private aspects of a total strangers’ life – to be able to connect to their loved ones and bring them messages of hope, of love and of inspiration. A lot of these ‘strangers’ have become very close regular clients and some – close and cherished friends.

I am also still just as nervous today as I was 20 years ago, before I do a reading and in fact, I probably feel more pressure now than I used to, because I have become so acutely aware of the ramifications of a misinterpreted message or how much what I say, can and does have an effect on my client. There is so much trust placed in me and this makes me feel even more responsible to ensure that I bring through messages that are accurate and what my client needs. I have also learned over the many years, that it so important to be gentle, kind, understanding and non-judgemental and so with each reading I do, this is top of mind for me – always.

There are still times when I feel like I have let my client down. People don’t come for readings, just for fun or just for the experience of it. There are occasionally those who do come out of curiosity, but for the most part, people want to connect to their loved ones, they want to be able to speak to them and most of all, they want comfort from knowing that they have made a connection. Having said that, we need to know that our loved ones, whilst they come through with their same personality and show us what they looked like, how they passed etc, they don’t always have the same ‘agenda’ for a reading as we do. By that I mean that so often questions that are so important to those left behind, are not seen with the same level of importance by the departed. As an example, I so often get asked to find out what happened to a will that was left behind, where was it stored, where are the keys to the shed outside; or I’m asked to find out if the loved one knows what they were doing on a particular day, what happened on that day or what were they thinking about.

Even after having had so many connections to the spirit world, I still am not 100% sure of how much our loved ones in spirit know about our lives after they have departed. I do know that they are given opportunities to spend time with their spirit guides and helpers and the lords of karma, to dissect their lives to gain insight into the choices that they made, the contracts they entered into prior to coming into this lifetime that they have just departed, and to analyse how much they actually achieved in terms of adhering to that contract. They are also assigned work to do, or initially, they spend time, moving around, visiting loved ones on the earth. Just being present or around a loved one on the earth, helps them to work through the pain they feel for having left the loved one behind, and their energy helps the loved one here to heal as well.

If they don’t know what you were doing or what you were thinking, firstly it doesn’t make me a bad medium to not be able to pick this up, and secondly it doesn’t mean that your loved one in spirit doesn’t care, it just means that they don’t know, perhaps because they just weren’t present at that particular time. And when I am asked the question, where is the key or what did they do with documents, this opportunity to connect with their loved ones, for the departed, is so intense and so emotional that a lost key no longer feels important.

I think it’s also good for the loved ones coming for a reading, to understand the process of communication. I can’t speak for all mediums, only for myself. My process is generally something like this : I have my spirit guide with me and she is the one who facilitates any spirit communication. So generally there is a three-way conversation taking place. My spirit guide telling me what the loved one in spirit is communicating and at the same time listening with me to the person who has come for the reading and helping me to interpret the answers. I receive my messages through impressions, thoughts, visuals and feelings. So very often when making the connection, I will feel a pain in my chest if someone departed through a heart attack, or I will feel shortness of breath that will indicate something around the lungs. I also get a sore throat or feel a roughness of my throat if say that person was a heavy smoker or they had something like throat cancer. I can also get extremely emotional and feel teary if the person coming through is very emotional. Where people have passed through extreme illness or suicide, their energy comes through to me very softly – it is slight and feels very childlike – that’s the only way I can describe it. So that’s not to say that the person when they were here on the earth was a gentle and quiet soul – perhaps they were – but… their energy as it currently is on the other side, feels slight, soft and gentle – I feel this too when a child or baby comes through as well. There are times too – and this happens often – when a loved one who has been in the spirit world for some time, will step forward on behalf of the newly departed soul with whom the actual contact is wanting to be made. And there are various reasons for this, mostly I have found, is because the newly departed soul is still learning how to use their energy to communicate or it can also be because they are too emotional or still working through healing of their soul on the other side.

I always do my best to explain as much as I can to my client so that my readings become a teaching moment as well. This comes from my spirit guide and I have learned how important it is – from her – to educate in terms of our life purpose, why we’re here, why big things happen and how to move past them.

The greatest privilege for me is how much I have learned and been able to take away for myself from the many readings that I have done. I know that I have become so much more compassionate, so much more understanding of how much we are all struggling through our lives, doing the best we can with what we have and that just a little kindness goes such a long way.

Last I just wanted to say that I keep my diary as up to date as possible and work really hard to accommodate my clients within 24 hours of them contacting me. It’s not always possible, but I never have a waiting list or make people wait more than a few days for an appointment. It is always my priority to get through my readings, seeing when people when they need to see me rather than when I can make myself available. As Spirit Connection is my website, you can contact me by completing the form on the contact me page – doing readings is my passion!