Suicide – What Of Those Left Behind?

In recent months, I have been doing readings for people who have had loved ones pass through suicide. Whilst I would never profess to say that I know anything from a professional standpoint on this subject, I have, over many years, been in a position where I interact with those who have been left behind.

When someone makes the decision to terminate their own life, it seems ludicrous that their loved ones could find themselves carrying some kind of blame, taking responsibility in some way – but they do. Those who have been left behind question themselves all the time. Was there something I missed? Was there something I could have done? If I had just paid more attention! If I had just listened more!

As a society we have been led to believe that suicide is a selfish act, the coward’s way out. Our religious teachings for the most part, tell us that this act will not get us into heaven and should we decide to take our own lives, we must be prepared to continue to exist in purgatory. I can tell you that this is so not true and I’ll tell you why.

Everything that we do in our lives, goes back to our choice to be here. We all choose what life we want to lead, prior to coming into this physical existence. We all choose the lessons that we are going to learn, through the various experiences that we will go through within this lifetime. This is achieved through the people that we agree or contract with, to come into this physical existence with.

Through each experience that we choose, we have a lesson that we will learn, teachings that will come out of that experience. And in so doing, we are facilitating the natural progression of our spiritual existence. For each and every one of us are souls who come to the earth, therefore it is for the spiritual growth of our souls that we choose these experiences in the first place.

In order for our spiritual selves to progress to ultimate perfection, this means that we have to go through everything that there is to experience as a human being on earth. One of these experiences, would be to take your own life. Therefore each one of us has at some point in our spiritual journey, already gone through the experience of terminating our life, or will at some future point.

On the flip side, what of those left behind? Well, they too have contracted to be in this lifetime with the person who has taken their life and so there are also lessons attached to this experience but from the perspective of the loved one who has to remain on the earth and continue with their lives. Naturally there are very strong emotions as with the loss of anyone that you loved. But the human side will always have those burning questions and will always leave these loved ones wondering what it is that they did wrong, or if they could have done anything to prevent it, or if they could have done anything to make that person change their minds. I always hope that there is some consolation in knowing that suicide is a joint lesson. It is a contracted experience just as any other big life-altering experience is.

Having not been in the shoes of a loved one left behind through suicide, I can never say that I know how it feels. What I can say is that the person who departed in this way, is dearly loved by their spirit helpers, the guides and the lords of karma. I know without doubt that they are received back into the spirit world with as much love and kindness and compassion as any other soul departing their earthly existence. They too are helped to acclimatize just as anyone else would be. They are taken into spirit hospitals in much the same way that someone who had passed through a debilitating terminal illness would be. And they are cared for and loved and helped to understand their lives and their life choices in the very same way as each of us is helped when we first pass back into spirit.

Taking your own life is not a sin. It is not something that is frowned upon in the spirit world. Please remember that there is no judgement in spirit, only unconditional perfect pure love. For those who are left behind, life continues as it should. I cannot dispense any advice to those left behind, except to say that you need to allow yourself the time to grieve in the same way one would when losing a loved one in any other way, without any feelings of guilt or shame. I would highly recommend that those left behind seek the assistance of a professional counsellor to help work through this experience.

Lastly I just want to mention that there is a belief that when someone has died through suicide, they cannot be contacted once on the other side. This is simply not true. I have made contact with many souls who have passed in this way and any good medium will also be able to.