What a profound statement! I recently heard this when listening to an extremely informative and inspiring talk by a lady called Brené Brown. The talk is entitled “The Power of Vulnerability”, and I highly recommend that everyone takes the time to go listen to it. I’ve included a link here https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability
Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathise, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity.
The reason that this statement struck a cord within me is that through my daily dealings with people, I have come to see that so many of us – and I include myself – place responsibility outside of ourselves for how people make us feel. Yes, there are people with whom we interact who have the ability to always uplift our spirits and make us feel better about ourselves. But there are those who do the exact opposite.
No matter which way you look at it, in both instances, these people only make you feel the way you do, because you have given them the power to do so. For the person who makes you feel better about yourself, you have in one way or other, bought into their good vibes or connected into their good vibes and the result is that you feel good. On the other side, those people who make you feel really bad, they upset you, make you angry etc etc, in these instances, you have also bought into their energies and you have given them the power to upset you.
We need to be so consciously aware every day that everything that we do, is an exchange of energy. This doesn’t matter whether it’s positive or negative energy. And, how we react to that energy exchange, is our responsibility. The point I’m trying to make here is that when you walk into a room and you don’t open yourself up to the other people in the room, you cannot blame them for not opening up to you. The energy that you take into the room is the exact energy that is going to be reflected directly back at you. And this is why those people who make you feel good, have this ability. They understand that they are responsible for their energy exchange and they can make a conscious choice to be open and in fact be vulnerable, or they can close themselves off and not achieve any connection with people at all.
Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is not easy. No-one wants to face rejection in any way, shape or form. But we’ll never know, if we don’t try. And the only way to find out (and I mean this in everything that we do), is to lay ourselves open and vulnerable and then see where that takes us. When we allow ourselves to do this, to make ourselves vulnerable, we afford ourselves the beautiful blessing of getting to know ourselves. Of getting to understand exactly who we are and each time that we lay ourselves vulnerable and receive a positive return, we find a deeper inner strength that perhaps we didn’t know existed in the first place. And when we find that, when we make that realisation about ourselves, we set ourselves up to be stronger and more positive in everything that we do. The ultimate result is that life just falls into place. We receive within ourselves, a deep sense of knowing and connectedness. One that connects us to the Great I Am wherein lies all compassion, pure an unadulterated love!